So I had some initial success this weekend, but I really don’t think it was related to the methods I’ve been cramming so hard. Obviously I can’t be disappointed that the very first attempt I’ve made at using the methods didn’t turn out ideally, especially because it’s helping me to open my eyes to some things I need to work on.
First party I hit was a friend’s birthday party. The house is a group of attractive women, so naturally the party was heavy on the male demographic. Additionally, there were significant groups who already knew each other well, and I was flying solo other than my friend whose birthday it was, so I was low on the social proof. I went with the party exception to the 3S rule (Three second rule – always approach a target within three seconds of spotting her), which is to say I hung back and tried to pick my targets based on who looked like they would most welcome someone to talk to. This was a learning experience. This may work in larger party settings and clubs and such. At a smaller event, particularly one with a negative ratio, any stalling will condemn you to death row (the row of men standing back watching other men get the women). The first approach I made was completely fucked from the start by the fact that I had hung back, and I know she had seen me do it. So, without the first impression as a confident risk-taker, I have a hole to dig myself out of. The only other real approach I can say I made I opened on a girl browsing the liquor with “So, what’s looking good?” We talked liquor a little bit, eventually got into fluff (meaningless conversation among people who just met, such as hometowns, majors, jobs, etc). I used the fluff to elicit some values. She was an actress, interested in screen and we went over the benefits of being on screen versus live on stage. I think the pick-up vibe must have come on a little strong because she took a moment where I turned to say goodnight to someone leaving the walk over and make out with the guy she was with. So, no closes of any kind, although I didn’t push too hard either.
So, next night reasonably sized house party at our place. Definitely better luck this time. I spot my cousin talking to a 3 set of HB’s (hot babes), maybe a 6.5 and couple of 7-7.5’s. There were also a couple other HB’s one of them closer to 8, who were moving in and out of the set. I played up the cocky-funny angle, never giving a straight answer to any question, and it was playing well. No close with any of them, although I didn’t try, and they made a point to tell me exactly when to expect them back at the house, which I take as a pretty strong IOI (indicator of interest). I tried some palm reading on another girl that night after some more cocky-funny fluff. I have been reading up on palm reading looking at my own hand, which has many deep-clear lines. Girls hands are more delicate and fleshy, meaning the lines aren’t as clear, and not all of them will always be there. So I think they may have been a negative effect because I said I could do it and then didn’t do it to a proficient enough level to be convincing. I think I should shoot to practice this a little more on people I’m not trying to pick up, or at least people I know better than a day1 (the first time you meet someone and try to pick them up), that way I can practice and get more comfortable with it without the problem of breaking the spell of a good pick-up attempt. So, anyway, no real closes that night, but some decent IOI’s and definitely some lessons.
Last night, I hit a bar with some guys who are friends, but not guys I hang with often. I had met the 3 set of girls in line behind us to get into the bar, but couldn’t remember from where, and then I waited way too long to talk with them. Once I did, I couldn’t transition well from the opener into fluff and it became kind of awkward, and then one of the guys started talking to me in a way that closed the girls back out. Had another of those I know you from somewhere moments with an HB 8.5, turns out we went to high school together. Fluffed about people we both know for a while, and I was getting some IOI’s (mostly a lot of leaning way farther than was necessary to talk in that environment), but I think I attribute that largely to alcohol. She was there with guys but I never got whether there was a boyfriend or just friends. Pulled a take-away (leaving temporarily to show power in the interaction and demonstrate social proof by talking to others), and never really rekindled the conversation. No other significant opens that night.
The fun part came when I came home and found the crew playing a board game with a couple girls I know and one I didn’t. I had #closed (gotten a phone number) one of the girls previously, but it’s been a while and nothing has come from it. The third girl seemed to be trying hard to demonstrate sexual attitudes with her jokes, so I played along and played the cocky-funny angle with lots of sex jokes to read her reactions. Ultimately, once the party broke up I *closed (kiss closed/made-out) her, then walked her home. She described her attitude toward me as “intrigued” which sounds like the goal of the whole cocky-funny routine so that’s a plus.
On the weekend, I never really got to run a good pattern other than the one failed palm reading attempt. I feel like the *close I got was really using the same old methods I’ve always used, and I would have done things exactly the same way regardless of my interest in the pick-up arts. This doesn’t decrease my interest and excitement in the process, simply helps my identify spots I need to fix. In the future I will write these reports one at a time to keep their length down, and hopefully they will become increasingly interesting as I hone my skills and practice in the field. Feel free to post questions and comments, just remember to keep everything completely anonymous. Until next time.
–Myth
